5 signs that you are talking to a tranny chaser

Posted on March 25, 2018
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This is going to be about men who might fit the description of a “chaser”, but also men who only display certain traits of one. A conversation with one of these people is going to either be a quick way to know where not to spend your time, or it can be an exhausting endeavour. The thing that distinguishes these men from ones who simply like trans women is that they seem to have a thing for the hunt that they embark upon when approaching us. That often means trouble.

I don’t think these men are very different from your typical narcissist. I’ll clarify that I don’t believe all chasers are narcissists, but that they certainly employ manipulative strategies to get their way nonetheless. That makes them similar in terms of communication, and as most transgender women probably know, being approached by one can be exhausting and truly push
some of the most dormant buttons within us.

So, what is the difference between a “chaser” and a man who just happens to like trans women? What I take from my own experience is that it’s the manipulative attempts to control their object of desire. Object is an important word here. That’s pretty much how these men seem to view other people, or how they exclusively view trans women.

To start off with he might seem like any other respectable guy, and his compliments may not be of the excessive kind that you can spot from a mile away. A lot of the time a facade is kept up, and it’s up to us ladies to trust our better judgement about the person we’re talking to. So, how do you know if you’re talking to a chaser?

Here are a few signs:

1. He uses the phrase “special woman” a lot.

That doesn’t have to be a sign, but more often than not I find that it is. I can count with my fingers men who’ve called me special and not shown any other red flags. More often than not, the men who talk like this are feeling a disconnect with women, and begin to approach trans women instead. That brings us to the next sign…

2. He blatantly tells you he thinks women are just too difficult.

We all know men and women tend to think very differently. That’s not news, but it’s not a rule, and it doesn’t mean that trans women will necessarily be a better match. If the difficulties you face with women are there because you don’t communicate well, it’s probably not a good bet to pursue a trans woman either. It could be that you’re just too manipulative and controlling, and your girl just isn’t having it. Neither am I.

3. It’s his sexual fantasy to sleep with a transsexual woman, but that’s all he wants to do with you.

There’s nothing malicious about an open and dirty mind. However, courtesy gets you a long way. The thing is, a chaser doesn’t seem to be aware or in the least appreciative of the fact that we may just be asked about this kind of thing on a daily basis. It’s quite obvious that a trans woman’s time is not as valuable to such a man as the accomplishment and satisfaction of sexual variety and novelty. I’m not talking about every closeted guy who wants to be with a transsexual woman. I’m talking about the
ones who won’t stop asking after you reject them numeorus times.

4. He can’t handle even mildly sarcastic comebacks after showing a lack of respect, and I’m not talking about non-PC words.

I don’t know about you, but this is a big one for me. If a guy can’t handle a t-girl with who can speak up for herself, that’s probably a pointer to the kind of issue that some men have when communicating with women, or rather their perception that the problem is not theirs at all, and that the other person is just being difficult.

5. He uses your insecurities as a piece in his game.

This is what I really want to address. If you ignore this sign, I promise you that you’re in for a setback when it comes to finding personal well being. I just so happen to have fallen into the abyss of naivety a few times myself, and it has made me waste time on people who would never accept the treatment they give others. Gender dysphoria can be a truly paralyzing thing. It can be exhausting. If somebody knows you have it, have had it, or that you’re insecure about something, they can use that to
play tricks on you if they’re clever and vicious enough. Once somebody knows you’re trans, they also know some of your deepest scars.

The trans population is like a huge sitting duck to a hunter. If someone knows you’re still battling dysphoria, and that you’re riddled with insecurities about your looks and character, who’s to say they won’t use it against you? If you keep getting comments like “Well, your brow bone is kind of big”, or “You should get breast implants” without even asking for his opinion, then girl, just stop the interaction right there. The objectification couldn’t be more obvious, and if there’s anything you don’t need, it is to feel like your compliance is a currency for temporary relief.

I hope this was informative, especially for girls who are new to the experience of dating and sexual interaction with trans-attracted men. I’ve had the things mentioned happened to me, and feel confident that even though I’m not a psychologist, these points are pretty accurate. There are three things that are key to your peace of mind, and that is self respect, self love, and an observant eye.

Be, as the cool kids say “woke”, and take care of yourself!