I am trying not to stop myself from fuming from what I’m about to write. Keep it professional Amanda! We all know that transgender dating sites do more good than bad but I just want to share with you my worst experience with one.

I’m not going to name the website but it’s one of the most popular ones way back in 2007.  It had a Backpage/Craigslist kind of theme.  You could literally post an ad without having a profile.

My worst experience on a transgender dating website was when I was a college student at 17yo.  I know, I wasn’t legal… but, what can I say!? I needed love lol.  If you are below 18, please learn from my mistake.

Worst Transgender Dating Site Experience

I know that it’s never good to brag but making an impression is vital if you want to snag your transgender date’s feelings. First of all, I want to congratulate you because you’ve reached the next level. Now that your transgender dream girl has said yes to going out with you, you need to keep a tight hold on your luck.  Don’t waste the chance to impress her on your first date so she’ll become more than just a dream girl.

Her Favorite Food

She’s currently your transgender crush but you want to turn her into your transgender date.

Let it be known that you may have your ways with cisgender women but you can’t use the same tricks on a new playing field.  There are familiar similarities with dating in general but some scenarios are polarizing that you’d have to be prepared.  I’m going to give you a thing or 2 to think about before you pursue your future transgender date.

Buckle up sweetie.

From Transgender Crush to Transgender Date

It’s been rainy lately in my country and the gloom is slowly taking over me. I just want to talk about my mood swings as a transgender woman which I obtain from taking hormones. It might help you with your transsexual date so if you’re inclined, keep reading.

For you to have a successful relationship with a transgender woman, first thing you need to know is if she is undergoing hormone replacement therapy.  I’ve been taking hormones since I was 16 and I can control my emotions but there are just some times that I let them get the best of me.

There are 2 types of medication when undergoing hormone replacement therapy. These are estrogen and anti-androgen.  I’m not going to lecture you about what they do but I’m going to sum it up by…

Estrogen = Emotions/Libido
Anti-Androgen = Libido

Your Transgender Date’s Hormones

I don’t think that there’s an exact model when it comes to transsexual dating.  Every dating situation is different but I’m going to enlist the most common relationships in dating websites for transsexual women.  Along with the list comes tips with how to make them work.

PS: I am in no way an expert in dating but I have friends who successfully found life partners through transsexual dating sites.

I don’t think that there’s a black and white guide when it comes to transgender dating or dating in general. It’s just that when you’re trying to enter a world that’s been considered taboo, you need to be prepared. As a transgender woman, I’m not very strict in applying restrictions when getting to know men. I’m very open about people’s choices and impulses. However, not all transgender women are like me.

Let me preface this by saying that I’m a transgender woman and in no way a dating site expert. I have transgender women friends who found their love on My Transsexual Date and I’m going to share with you the most common things that we peruse when we try to get to know men.

Profile picture

This is the first thing we see and we need something to grab our attention for us to swipe right.

Some of my transgender friends like a man who’s confident about his body hence they swipe right for the guys who take topless selfies.

For me however, I like a man who’s more nonchalantly out there. I like when a guy’s not trying too hard and gives me something to be interested about rather than his hard body. Photos in the office, sports, travel, or a profile photo with friends, pets, family usually hit the spot for me. Images like those tell a story and show that a guy is more than just a pretty face. I want to see that a guy is stable, loves to have fun, capable of caring for people… ok the list will be too long but you get the idea.

You’ve decided to take a transgender woman out on a date for the first time. You have zero clue on where to take her and what to do. I’m a transgender woman and I’m going to share with you the most memorable first dates I’ve had.

PS: I have a quirky personality so I’m not sure if some of the following tips will work for you.

Movie and Candy (Beginner)

I wasn’t a virgin when I was 18 but I was a bit inexperienced with dates. I’ve only had one serious boyfriend when I was 17 and about 4 short-term intimate relationships with 4 different men. Suffice to say, I don’t want to have a daughter like my 17yo self.

From 2007 – 2008, I’ve had one date that’s so memorable to me (not my ex-boyfriend). It’s with this aviation student (he’s a pilot now OMG) who’s the same age as I was and we both didn’t have cash to go on a fancy date. We met at Greenbelt Mall in Makati, Philippines, and I wasn’t sure if we watched Narnia or Paranormal Activity. What I remember is him looking very dashing in a dress shirt, jeans and leather shoes (very well-dressed for an 18yo).

He was such a gentleman and held my hand whenever we walked. He bought me candy because I’m not a popcorn gal. It was magical to me because I didn’t care if he’d take me to an expensive place. I was 18 and I just wanted to have fun.

What I’m trying to say is you don’t have to do a lot of things to impress a girl. Just look good, smell nice, and be a gentleman. He complimented me as soon as he saw me so that’s vital if you’re taking a transgender woman on a date. I was wearing heels and it pinched my feet so I better get some credit out of it.