I don't feel that a trans relationship is gay..

I am interested in pre-op, non-op, and transvestites between 25 and 48

I am looking for Making friends and Relationship


180 cm (5'10")
80 kg (176 lbs)
Body type
Physical look
Would travel
Would relocate
I don’t know
Scientist / researcher
Education level
Caucasian (white)
Eating habits
With my housemate(s)
Never but I do not mind smoke
Zodiac sign
Chinese zodiac sign
Sexual role


I am a straight but trans-attracted meaning that I am attracted to androgynous only interested in trans relationship. My preference is versatile and I don't prefer a 'bottom-only' women. No disrespect to those who are but I just know my preference.

The voice may be a bit deeper or have that unique 'tone' (which I adore). She may be a bit taller or thicker than a genetic female. She may have a different outlook on her personal gender identity or role. She may not be totally confident around cis men and just need someone who can help her confirm her identity as a woman. These are all of the unique qualities that I am attracted to. I hate the words 'homosexual' and 'gay' as I don't personally find a relationship between a man and a trans woman to be either. I'm also not 'bi'...these are convenient terms that society uses for us but they are wrong.

I live in Virginia, USA but I am very open to explore meeting trans women from different cultures. I get a lot of interest from cis women but the heart wants what it wants and they don't interest me. I was formerly in a long-term relationship with a top trans from Mexico and that truly taught me about sacrifice but it was also emotionally draining. I understand what a girl needs and I'm not afraid to give it without hesitation but I also need to express my male instincts.

I understand the social stigma of this type of relationship and have now experienced it first-hand. Nobody ever paid any attention years ago if I was in public with a cis girl. I found out that its much different now dating trans girls. The curious looks people give when they see a straight looking male holding hands, embracing, or showing affection to his partner whose unique gender is obvious. Yes, its 2020 but society still has not fully embraced people like us and that is their loss really.

I feel comfortable in a versatile relationship because both partners have a stronger 'investment' and both sacrifice a part of themselves and their physical comfort for the good of another human being. What 2 committed adults do in the privacy of their own home is private. Who does who, your/my size, and your transformation status, if you shave is not so important to me. I feel that far too many trans women are hung up on superficial things like having breasts, augmented butts, lip injections, and all that. Do not automatically assume that men are only after beauty, silicone injections, and a big penis as this would be a mistaken assumption. These are not the most important and many of us would take a natural, non-hormonal partner with a good personality over the rest. There are plenty of grounded men who accept you just the way you are.

I am hoping that perhaps opening myself up to other cultures could lead to new possibilities. The Covid crisis has put any international travel plans I had on hold for now but this wont last forever. I am more than willing to get on an airplane for the right person.