My Transsexual Date now accepts Bitcoin Cash, Ethereum and Litecoin

Posted on April 11, 2018
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We at My Transsexual Date are die hard technology lovers. That’s why back in 2015 we already wanted to play our part in the cryptocurrency revolution and offer our members the option to pay by Bitcoin (the mother of all cryptocurrencies).

Thanks to our partner Coinbase, we are now able to also accept payments by Bitcoin Cash, Ethereum and Litecoin, which are the three other major cryptocurrencies after Bitcoin.

What are cryptocurrencies?

Cryptocurrencies are a new kind of digital asset that allows you to store value and make payments. Some pros of cryptocurrencies are:

  • anonymity (to some extent, your identity isn’t linked to the payments you make or the value you own)
  • low fees (transfer money anywhere in the world for a fraction of the fees you would pay for a bank transfer)
  • decentralised (no one big entity, bank or government has control over cryptocurrencies)

5 signs that you are talking to a tranny chaser

Posted on March 25, 2018
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This is going to be about men who might fit the description of a “chaser”, but also men who only display certain traits of one. A conversation with one of these people is going to either be a quick way to know where not to spend your time, or it can be an exhausting endeavour. The thing that distinguishes these men from ones who simply like trans women is that they seem to have a thing for the hunt that they embark upon when approaching us. That often means trouble.

I don’t think these men are very different from your typical narcissist. I’ll clarify that I don’t believe all chasers are narcissists, but that they certainly employ manipulative strategies to get their way nonetheless. That makes them similar in terms of communication, and as most transgender women probably know, being approached by one can be exhausting and truly push
some of the most dormant buttons within us.


Older, Dating, and Trans

Posted on March 17, 2018
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Single? What? I haven’t been single since I was a teen. Four long-term relationships have filled the better part of the last 30 years. Now, recently divorced after 14 years, I am dipping my toe into unfamiliar waters.These waters my toe is dangling in are deep and scary. Even as I ease into the pool, I am clinging tightly to the edge not wanting to venture out. Who are these people? Why are they attractive to me, or not? Wait, online dating? What is this? I am not meeting you in real life? Ummm…

That is not to say I haven’t had periods of time where I was single, but they were brief. Maybe I glommed onto the first person that came along. Maybe fate always kept a partner in my life. Maybe I was just lucky. I can’t explain why my life happened the way it did, but none-the-less, here I am. And now…turning 45 and facing the dating scene for really the first time in my life. On top of being single for the first time in what seems like forever, I am also single as the first time as a Trans Woman. Ummm…

One thing I can say is that I have certainly learned some valuable lessons as I have ventured into the dating pool.

Lesson one: Not everyone is honest, the scammers are looking for me.

I read about people being scammed on dating sites from various sources and I have often thought to myself, how does anyone fall for that? Until it happened to me! Yes, I am a victim of a scammer. Mr. Charming wrote me the message of my dreams, promising me everything. Did it sound fishy? Of course. But, I don’t do alone well and desperation pushed my intelligence aside and said, trust this guy. Money, power and fame, what more could a girl ask for? He offered it all: Sugar Daddy. What did he want? To pay off my debts and be a kind soul. Too good to be true? Yeah, of course it was, but the brain was turned off and reason flew out the window. Even as the scam unfolded, and my brain knocked on the door saying, hey chicky, you know this isn’t real, I continued to follow along. In the end, it could have been a lot worse as it only cost me $60 in bounced check fees, but…stupid, stupid, stupid!
What did come from this encounter was life experience. I had waded away from the edge of the dating pool and started to drown, but it taught me to swim, even if just treading water to stay afloat. When the next scammer came around, I was ready. It was the same lines, the same moves and potentially even the same person. My brain took over and said, no way buddy! The interaction with him lasted less than half a day. He figured out quick that I wasn’t having any of it and moved on. Maybe the water isn’t so deep when you know how to navigate it?

Lesson two: People can be flaky

So many people, so many personalities. I have had conversations that in the end we both decided that it wasn’t right. I am still having conversations where the future of any relationship is still open. Then I have had conversations that go so well and then…they just stop talking. The last exchange was positive, so what happened? Did I do something wrong? We bonded for hours and all I said was I need to go to a meeting and I’ll be back in 30 minutes. Geez, how is that a deal breaker?
I have to keep reminding myself that not everyone reacts to situations the same way I do. We all use our life’s experiences to guide our actions as we interact with others. They are no exception. Three hours of texting does not give me their entire story. I don’t know what their past holds. Maybe the thought of it ‘going right’ scares them? Maybe they don’t really want what they think they want? Maybe they just change their minds? All cool, but why be rude?

I am sure this is where my naiveite of online dating comes into play. When I lose interest, I personally just say, “no thank you”. Or if we have had an ongoing dialogue, I say, “I’m sorry, but…” I guess that is just me and the way I have dated in the past…well as much as I can remember from 30 years ago. Sigh.

Lesson three: Very few people take the time to read my profile

I swear, there are times I think I could write the rudest thing possible on my profile and I would still get responses. I’m sorry, I took the time to write my profile, you take the time to read it. It is a good window into who I am. Is it a complete picture? No. Website limitations prevent that. And, that is what we can talk about; that is our conversation starters. But the one thing that drives me crazy is if I have put it in my profile and the questions I start getting are all about things I already took the time to explain. I am not talking about clarification, I am talking about questions like, “Where do you live?” Ummm….
The same holds true in reverse. I do read your profile. If I am responding to you or writing you first, I promise it has nothing to do with your profile picture. I saw something on your profile that caught my attention. It could be something as simple as where you live, but we have to start somewhere. Please don’t repeat your profile to me as we correspond. If I need a refresher, I know how to pull up your profile and look it over again. Tell me something new.
Lesson four: Learning to swim is a process and not something I do automatically
Drown and resurface, drown and resurface. This seems to be the way this process works. Every time I think I have it figured out, I go under again. Do you like to be the one to initiate contact? Do you prefer if I reach out to you first? Are you just here to troll? (Hey look, I used an internet term not from my generation…go me!) How am I supposed to know?
It was so simple back before online dating. You went to a place or an event, you saw someone you might be interested in and asked if you could get to know each other. The answer was either yes, no or maybe. Two out of three in the odds of at least having a conversation; not bad. In the online world, not so much. Yes, can mean yes, until I get bored in five minutes or yes, how about we talk next week or yes, but not really. What??? Is my head above water here? I don’t understand. Can we just be precise with what we want and what we are looking for? Drown and resurface, drown and resurface.

I think that being Trans adds more depth to the water I am treading. This added complication limits where I can go to date. I tried may times using dating sites that are geared towards more ‘conventional’ relationships, straight and gay. That is the point where lesson three comes back into play. It never matters if the first word on my profile is “Transgender” because they aren’t reading it. I learned to always ask while setting up a date if they are really okay with me being Trans. Nine times out of ten, I get,

“What do you mean you are Trans? ” Cue the curse words and slurs Ummm…

It is all enough to make me want to give up hope. Maybe I should join a nunnery. Oh wait…religion, trans…guess that one is out too. Am I doomed to be alone? How long do I have to swim these dark murky waters? Where is Mr. Right? I do not know the answers to any of these questions and don’t even know where to look for them. What I do know is that it is scary to be in the dating pool and not knowing how to swim. For now, I will tread to keep my head above water and hope that someone will take me by the hand and show me the way back out the deep abyss.


Transgender women who date transgender women

Posted on December 13, 2017
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Dating… a word that sounds very familiar for the most of us but a word that cannot be simply defined in a quintessential manner. It goes in myriad directions, above and beyond. You know the fundamentals of it but will you able to have the same familiarity with it when it veers off from what you think you know?

There are a lot of Transgender Dating Sites for women which doesn’t necessarily endorse a prototype of a straight relationship but majorly represents it. The idea of a man and a woman as the perfect couple is rampantly seen as the 15-second advertisement of a fast-food chain right before you can watch a video on Youtube.

What if a transgender woman in a dating site is looking for transgender women as well? What if a transgender woman happens to find love with a cisgender woman outside of a transgender dating site for women?

To be honest, the realities I’ve listed above were once novelty to me. As a transgender woman, I’ve always thought that one of the main advantages of me transitioning is to be able to attract men easier. I was once ignorant and associated gender with sexual preference.


Fashion tips for transgender women in transition

Posted on August 18, 2017
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One of the biggest things that worry most tgirls at the beginning of their transition is their visuals, but it’s not a problem, just a lack of information. Sometimes what you’re trying to avoid, comes to the fore. What happens is that at this stage, the body still has many masculine characteristics which are something very common, but what I intend to talk about in this post is, precisely the tips on how to “cover” these parts without losing your subtlety and beauty. I am going to show here options very practical, and valuables advice to you feel more feminine and especially, better with yourself.


When John loved Jane, a short transgender love story

Posted on February 6, 2017
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When John loved Jane is a short story by Filipino transgender writer Gabrielle Dela Cruz. Thank you Gabrielle for letting us post your story on our blog!

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When John loved Jane

John, a college student recalls the very first time he fell in love. He takes everyone in a journey through how his life was geared towards making a girl named Jane truly happy for the first time in her life.

Jane, an atypical damsel in distress who is quite eccentric nonchalantly reveals herself to John. Beneath Jane’s seemingly perfect life colored with beautiful artworks and promises is an underlying sadness that John was in a battle to lift away from her.
John might just have all the answers through Jane’s unsaid prayers through this intimate narrative of first love.


Top 7 transsexual myths that need to die ASAP

Posted on January 20, 2017
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Since time immemorial, transgender people have always been dealing with issues – how we have been unfairly treated, how we have been wrongly perceived and how we have been hastily judged by many. This seemingly started to decrease the past years and today, signs are showing that we are entering a more accepting era for transsexual people to advance in life and live life with less or, even better, without any problems. This idea of removing these issues for transgender people is a challenge but I believe it’s achievable (hope I’m not daydreaming). The question is, how are we going to successfully make this happen?

I firmly believe that if people would open their minds and become aware of these facts, it would make cohabitating together for transgender people and cis-gender people in this world more sound and peaceful. This could happen if all of us would do these 2 things; Knowing the accurate information and, unlearning the things this conservative, egocentric and discriminating society we are all part of taught us about being transgender.

Let me go thru some things with you on what some people generally think about the transgender community. (and what I personally think about it)


Hurtful Comments when dating a transsexual woman. What to do?

Posted on August 2, 2016
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No matter how feminine and passable your transsexual girlfriend may be, eventually some clown is going to make a rude comment about her after he’s had a few too many drinks or was simply an uncouth boor. Even though most of my ts relationships were with women who no one passing on the street would guess that she was born a male, we would occasionally encounter a yahoo who thought he or she – yes, sometimes genetic girls mouth off, too – was being clever or funny by making a wisecrack.

The question for us men who are – or want to be – involved with a transsexual woman is simply this: What’s the best way to handle it?

On the one hand, my attitude has always been that when someone insults the woman in my life it is the same as insulting me. But at the same time, defending her doesn’t mean taking a swing at the guy. Still, most of us want to protect our girlfriend without ending up in a brawl where people could get hurt – and arrested.


8 commandments in dating a transgender woman

Posted on June 25, 2016
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The multi-part blog that transgender women posted about dating transsexual women was terrific, and spot on.
Let me offer a few more tips as someone who has dated transsexual women almost exclusively for the past ten-plus years. This included living with a transsexual woman for five years, and dating another for three in a committed relationship although we did not live together. When I wasn’t involved with someone, I was dating mostly transsexual women hoping to find a relationship.

Treat a transgender woman as a woman

This is very important, remember that you are dating a woman. She may have thought of herself as female since she was very young, so treat her as such. If all you want is the experience, need to fulfil a fantasy, or think of transsexuals as “chicks with dicks,” do both you and her a favor and call an escort.


Sex Diaries: Trans Lovers, could it be more cliché?

Posted on October 15, 2015
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Sex Diaries, episode 3: Trans Lovers. This documentary of 45 minutes aired on Channel 4 a few days ago. You might be able to still watch it online on Channel 4’s website (although I believe this won’t work if you’re not physically in the UK… I am in the Philippines and the video didn’t load — fortunately, a good soul published a copy on Youtube).

First of all, I do appreciate that Channel 4 is featuring transgender stories. I don’t watch TV much, so I might be wrong, but it seems this channel airs a lot of transgender related programs overall. But then, I’m a bit disappointed by the sample of people they chose to follow. Have they asked us, we could have recommended a way more representative sample…