Today is going to be an article solely for my trans sisters. Transgender dating is already a very small circle made smaller by dating sites.  Dating sites are the most accessible avenue and common ground of trans people and people who love them so it’s inevitable to be passed by popular personalities from time to time.

Dating famous people can be rewarding but can be can be crippling to one’s confidence at the same time especially if you’re a transgender woman and the man you like who also happens to like you back can’t for some reason introduce you to the world.  I’m a very understanding woman and I try to be patient for as long as I can especially if LOVE is already in place and for the welfare of my partner.   However, there comes a time when I’ll tell myself…

Enough is ENOUGH!

Well… factoring if he makes millions, that’s a whole different story. Just kidding!

When is it ENOUGH?

We were all once novices in the world of transgender dating. Today, I’ve enlisted some questions in random order that you should avoid asking on the first conversation if you want to proceed to the next level.

Everyone’s individuality varies in enormous degrees but just know that the tips here are applicable in general as to not potentially hurt someone you really fancy.

You better not take risks John!

Are you a virgin?

Stop right there! My or anyone’s virginity is none of your business. Nobody’s asking you how many holes your wiener has entered. I don’t know if this is common amongst western men but this is a very common question from men in my country.  This is so outdated and inappropriate. Polish your communication skills and think of something better. 

I think insecurity happens once in a while to everybody except Elizabeth Taylor or Mariah Carey (I love them).

As a transgender woman, I have a LOT of insecurities.  Today, I’m going to be talking about how you can deal with your transgender date who’s battling her physical insecurities.  Puberty of a transwoman is different from a ciswoman. I didn’t grow boobs or started my period at 14.  A woman’s shape and form are what I aspired to have and it didn’t happen overnight and for free.  You have to know that although we get to live with what we have, there are times when it can become crippling seeing ourselves in the mirror without the reflection of who we want to be.  The lack of hips, butt, smaller waist, breasts, suppler skin, gentler facial features and etc. can all target a transitioning transwoman.

When I was 17, I already had soft features (I’m Asian) but I HATED my pot belly and fat arms because my Filipino diet consists of rice daily.  Yeah right Amanda, blame it on the Filipino diet.

I’ve thought about this for about a hundred times before talking about it and the reality is… it happens.

What happens exactly, Amanda?

When hormones get the best of us transgender women.

I am the same as your transgender date but I’m not sure if she is undergoing hormone replacement therapy.  If she is, keep reading.

My Transgender Date is so moody…

Nobody’s born with an arsenal of world knowledge. We all started from ignorance.  The very reason why schools were created is for us to learn.

You really want to pursue your transgender date but you’ve said something out of ignorance that made her dislike you. What do you do now?

I don’t think that there’s a person who exists who hasn’t said anything out of ignorance. If you find yourself in a sticky situation and you want to make things right, I’m here for you.

Please know that us transgender women have been struggling ever since we learned the difference of genders. If you’re thinking “Amanda, we all struggle”, you have to stop.  Yes, we all struggle, but the thing that urged you to read this is because you’ve accidentally said something insensitive to your Trannsexual date hence, we need to talk about HER struggle.

Never EVER Misgender your Transgender Date