Are you in an abusive relationship wherein you find yourself trapped? You badly want to escape but you’re finding a route that is more favorable to your heart’s desire? It’s good to be romantic and all but you have to know that life is not a fairytale waiting to happen. That person may change but are you sure that he/she will while he/she’s still with you? Or… have you ever thought of the possibility that he’s never going to change and your fairytale dream might just end up into a tragic headline?
Personally, I’ve experienced abuse too, mostly verbal and sexual, at a very young age. Most of us transgender woman often become preys because we have this notion that we are always grateful when somebody loves us and accepts us for who we are. At that time, I was enjoying transitioning at the expense of my ex-boyfriend. I was so thankful, to the point of doing absolutely everything for him. Little did I know, it cost me a lot more than it did him…
Anyway, that’s for another story. Today, I’m going to give you some scenarios that point towards the exit route. Don’t justify anything, just pack your bags and go.
I know that it may sound too technical but we didn’t wind up with a dating profile in My Transsexual Date to just fail. We signed up for the ultimate goal of true love. In any type of success, there’s only 1 key to achieving it and that is by good ole’ strategy.
Today, I’m going to share with you the 3 most important factors in having a successful dating profile. Let it be known that everything I’m going to share is solely from my life experiences. Please take these tips with a grain of salt.
What happens when you meet the love of your life but they happen to be on the other side of the planet? Meeting your date online would mean that there is a big possibility that you two don’t live in the same area or much worse in the same country. So how do long-distance couples survive when most people say that it takes two times the effort to be in this kind of relationship?
I got a very interesting message earlier about a Filipino guy who asked me for advice on how he can tell his mother that his girlfriend is transgender. He added that his mother is already aware that he has a girlfriend but she has no idea that she is transgender. He’s been with his transgender date for 7 months and from his long message, it’s safe to say that he’s going through a dilemma. Let it be known that in our country, the Philippines; transgender people are only tolerated but not yet fully accepted. All thanks to the Macho culture and the Catholic upbringing. He hasn’t gotten back yet about my query regarding his age so I’m going to write in here what I’ll exactly tell him to do in different circumstances.
To be honest, I’m still gushing knowing that some people take my articles seriously lol. Alright, let’s get to it.
The majority of us know how difficult dating is and if you’re a trans woman in transgender dating, it’s even more so. I’ve been in bad dates in multiple occasions as a transwoman and if I had the chance to live those dates again, I would do the following tips below in order to save myself some time and free myself from headache. However, there may be the times that the first date can be awkward but the follow-up would redeem itself. Only use this guide if your date turns out to be an asshole who thinks he’s an Adonis who’s a gift from God.
There are a lot of men in transgender dating websites and if you’re very easy to get or absolutely have no standards at all, you’re going to rack up multiple exchanges in your inbox. Sometimes in life, you have to learn the art of rejection with and that entails learning to say no without offending or hurting others’ feelings. Please know that even if you wrap up rejection in the nicest way you can, some feelings will still get hurt… but you get the gist.
Wow Amanda, how very contradictory of you!
Lying is a bad idea most of the time and sometimes, I find it as a safe action to resort to when I need to buy time for an instance such as…
Well… this guy that I really like and had sex with (anal) doesn’t know that I’m still a pre-op transgender. He is a former schoolmate and I had sex with him around 8 years ago. How do I know that he doesn’t have a problem with anal? We did 2 rounds and he didn’t want to leave my apartment but I had to kick him out because he was still in college at that time and I didn’t want him skipping school lol. So right after the sex, he was adamant about getting to know me better but I was at the point of my life when I was switching between daddies (escorting days) and he was like a side entertainment.
I’m not an expert when it comes to critiquing movies but I’m going to share with you some movies that feature transgender women and why you should watch them from my personal opinion. Let it be known that you can watch whatever genre of movie you like and I’m not trying to put us trans women in a box. Grab your popcorn, turn on your torrent program (just kidding!), and enjoy!
I know that it’s quite challenging to find a soul mate but you rose above the challenge and were able to turn your transsexual date into a girlfriend. You thought that it’d end there but you were wrong, totally wrong. Turns out, you’d need more than words and actual fuel to keep the fire alive in the relationship. If you’re just knowing this now, I don’t blame you, I’ve been there before lol.
It’s like when you really wanted a pet as a kid and your parents decide to give you a goldfish which you nonchalantly flushed after it died with you neglecting it for other stuff. So anyway, let’s head on to some tips on how to successfully keep the stokes of love burn hotter.
As a former sex-worker and a transgender woman, I can get a little neurotic… well, paranoid, every time a guy asks me out on a date. I always have the feeling of being only wanted for one thing and it usually includes a mattress… or a floor! Who knows what you’re into? Alright Jacob, I’m not saying that I’m a prototype transgender woman when it comes to dating but I am a person with experiences and you may be able to get some key information from me and you’ll never know how much in common your crush and I have.
Let’s begin with the most vital part that can make or break your dream with your future transgender date…