She’s currently your transgender crush but you want to turn her into your transgender date.
Let it be known that you may have your ways with cisgender women but you can’t use the same tricks on a new playing field. There are familiar similarities with dating in general but some scenarios are polarizing that you’d have to be prepared. I’m going to give you a thing or 2 to think about before you pursue your future transgender date.
Buckle up sweetie.
From Transgender Crush to Transgender Date
It’s been rainy lately in my country and the gloom is slowly taking over me. I just want to talk about my mood swings as a transgender woman which I obtain from taking hormones. It might help you with your transsexual date so if you’re inclined, keep reading.
For you to have a successful relationship with a transgender woman, first thing you need to know is if she is undergoing hormone replacement therapy. I’ve been taking hormones since I was 16 and I can control my emotions but there are just some times that I let them get the best of me.
There are 2 types of medication when undergoing hormone replacement therapy. These are estrogen and anti-androgen. I’m not going to lecture you about what they do but I’m going to sum it up by…
Estrogen = Emotions/Libido
Anti-Androgen = Libido
Your Transgender Date’s Hormones
I don’t think that there’s a general explanation for one’s dating preference. I’m just going to list the reasons that men told me why they date a transgender woman like me. These reasons are solely from the perspective of the guys I’ve dated.
If you are a man who likes dating transgender women, please know that some of the things below may not apply to you. Don’t attack me if you will find this inaccurate. I’m a Blogger, not a sociologist.
Why do men date Transgender Women like ME?
Let me preface this by warning you that I will be brutally honest. I won’t hide the reasons why and some of them may not be safe for work so… It will all be up to you if you will receive MY truth.
I don’t think that there’s an exact model when it comes to transsexual dating. Every dating situation is different but I’m going to enlist the most common relationships in dating websites for transsexual women. Along with the list comes tips with how to make them work.
PS: I am in no way an expert in dating but I have friends who successfully found life partners through transsexual dating sites.
I don’t think that there’s a black and white guide when it comes to transgender dating or dating in general. It’s just that when you’re trying to enter a world that’s been considered taboo, you need to be prepared. As a transgender woman, I’m not very strict in applying restrictions when getting to know men. I’m very open about people’s choices and impulses. However, not all transgender women are like me.
Let me preface this by saying that I’m a transgender woman and in no way a dating site expert. I have transgender women friends who found their love on My Transsexual Date and I’m going to share with you the most common things that we peruse when we try to get to know men.
This is the first thing we see and we need something to grab our attention for us to swipe right.
Some of my transgender friends like a man who’s confident about his body hence they swipe right for the guys who take topless selfies.
For me however, I like a man who’s more nonchalantly out there. I like when a guy’s not trying too hard and gives me something to be interested about rather than his hard body. Photos in the office, sports, travel, or a profile photo with friends, pets, family usually hit the spot for me. Images like those tell a story and show that a guy is more than just a pretty face. I want to see that a guy is stable, loves to have fun, capable of caring for people… ok the list will be too long but you get the idea.
You’ve decided to take a transgender woman out on a date for the first time. You have zero clue on where to take her and what to do. I’m a transgender woman and I’m going to share with you the most memorable first dates I’ve had.
PS: I have a quirky personality so I’m not sure if some of the following tips will work for you.
Movie and Candy (Beginner)
I wasn’t a virgin when I was 18 but I was a bit inexperienced with dates. I’ve only had one serious boyfriend when I was 17 and about 4 short-term intimate relationships with 4 different men. Suffice to say, I don’t want to have a daughter like my 17yo self.
From 2007 – 2008, I’ve had one date that’s so memorable to me (not my ex-boyfriend). It’s with this aviation student (he’s a pilot now OMG) who’s the same age as I was and we both didn’t have cash to go on a fancy date. We met at Greenbelt Mall in Makati, Philippines, and I wasn’t sure if we watched Narnia or Paranormal Activity. What I remember is him looking very dashing in a dress shirt, jeans and leather shoes (very well-dressed for an 18yo).
He was such a gentleman and held my hand whenever we walked. He bought me candy because I’m not a popcorn gal. It was magical to me because I didn’t care if he’d take me to an expensive place. I was 18 and I just wanted to have fun.
What I’m trying to say is you don’t have to do a lot of things to impress a girl. Just look good, smell nice, and be a gentleman. He complimented me as soon as he saw me so that’s vital if you’re taking a transgender woman on a date. I was wearing heels and it pinched my feet so I better get some credit out of it.
We at My Transsexual Date are die hard technology lovers. That’s why back in 2015 we already wanted to play our part in the cryptocurrency revolution and offer our members the option to pay by Bitcoin (the mother of all cryptocurrencies).
Thanks to our partner Coinbase, we are now able to also accept payments by Bitcoin Cash, Ethereum and Litecoin, which are the three other major cryptocurrencies after Bitcoin.
What are cryptocurrencies?
Cryptocurrencies are a new kind of digital asset that allows you to store value and make payments. Some pros of cryptocurrencies are:
- anonymity (to some extent, your identity isn’t linked to the payments you make or the value you own)
- low fees (transfer money anywhere in the world for a fraction of the fees you would pay for a bank transfer)
- decentralised (no one big entity, bank or government has control over cryptocurrencies)
This is going to be about men who might fit the description of a “chaser”, but also men who only display certain traits of one. A conversation with one of these people is going to either be a quick way to know where not to spend your time, or it can be an exhausting endeavour. The thing that distinguishes these men from ones who simply like trans women is that they seem to have a thing for the hunt that they embark upon when approaching us. That often means trouble.
I don’t think these men are very different from your typical narcissist. I’ll clarify that I don’t believe all chasers are narcissists, but that they certainly employ manipulative strategies to get their way nonetheless. That makes them similar in terms of communication, and as most transgender women probably know, being approached by one can be exhausting and truly push
some of the most dormant buttons within us.
Single? What? I haven’t been single since I was a teen. Four long-term relationships have filled the better part of the last 30 years. Now, recently divorced after 14 years, I am dipping my toe into unfamiliar waters.These waters my toe is dangling in are deep and scary. Even as I ease into the pool, I am clinging tightly to the edge not wanting to venture out. Who are these people? Why are they attractive to me, or not? Wait, online dating? What is this? I am not meeting you in real life? Ummm…
That is not to say I haven’t had periods of time where I was single, but they were brief. Maybe I glommed onto the first person that came along. Maybe fate always kept a partner in my life. Maybe I was just lucky. I can’t explain why my life happened the way it did, but none-the-less, here I am. And now…turning 45 and facing the dating scene for really the first time in my life. On top of being single for the first time in what seems like forever, I am also single as the first time as a Trans Woman. Ummm…
One thing I can say is that I have certainly learned some valuable lessons as I have ventured into the dating pool.
Lesson one: Not everyone is honest, the scammers are looking for me.